This weekend I had the great, great joy of speaking to moms at LifeWay’s dotMOM Conference in Chattanooga, TN. In Friday’s break-out session, I spent an hour with some very fun moms covering a few of the topics in my book called, For the session, I printed the 52 chapter titles from the book to give to each of the ladies, but ran out of copies. They asked me to post those titles and I promised them I would.
Just in case you weren’t in my session, please read a bit of introduction before I give you the 52 Things:
I want you to know that I have written these 52 things as prompts. Ideas. Creative reminders. Two of my girlfriends read this list before it was published and both of them called me to say, ” I haven’t done even half of them. I hope there’s still time left.” So I want to tell you what I told them: There is no guilt intended for you with this list of chapter titles. They have not been written as a checklist for women who want to be impressive moms. Each of these chapters was written out of longing, desire and love.”
Some of you could write 1052 other things kids need from a mom. My friend with an autistic son could help us all learn so much more about patience and championing your child. My friend with adopted children would be able to give us lists of things kids need to adapt to a new culture and make the transition from orphanage to family. Another one of my friends spends almost every moment caring for her baby, who has had life-threatening issues and too many stays in the hospital. Oh, the things she could tell us.
A list of things for moms could become very intimidating, but I did not write one word of this book to be intimidating. I have written from grace and for grace. So with these words of introduction, here you go . . . 52 Things Kids Need From a Mom:
Kids need their mom:
- To pray in secret with the door open.
- To never stop touching them.
- To hang hearts of love over their lives.
- To watch them go out of sight.
- To keep a date night with dad.
- To make them sit around the table . . . and linger.
- To let her yes be yes and her no be no.
- To be delayed, rerouted and canceled with poise.
- To make them wait to take a bite.
- To take Christmas to people who have nothing.
- To miss a few things they do wrong.
- To put down the phone.
- To learn their unique love language.
- To occasionally be a supermom.
- To turn their beds down at night.
- To ride a roller coaster . . . for the first time.
- To talk to them like they are fascinating.
- To treat their friends like family.
- To cheer wildly from the stands.
- To give grace-filled consequences.
- To be a passionate, alive, spiritual lover of God.
- To indulge their silly.
- To have a hallelujah party.
- To keep a family blog.
- To become physically and emotionally healthy.
- To become spiritually healty.
- To believe they will not grunt forever.
- To make a big deal out of God.
- To keep her promise.
- To wait on them hand and foot . . . they are sick.
- To tell them to buy another token and keep swinging.
- To pray them home and for the will of God.
- To be a “groovy” mom.
- To teach them how to know the voice of God.
- To believe in their strengths and speak life into their gifts.
- To make a home where grace lives.
- To throw down the “MOM card.”
- To tell them what she’d do differently.
- To make a big deal out of grandparents and extended family.
- To teach them how to keep their money straight, in order, facing the same direction.
- To be patient about things like thumb-sucking and pacifiers.
- To let them make really dumb mistakes without condemnation.
- To introduce them to her friend named Jesus.
- To set the tone for the family.
- To teach them to genuinely respect all people, cultures, denominations and creeds.
- To teach the boys how to love a wife.
- To teach the girls how to love a husband.
- To identify the characteristics of a fool and tell them what to do when they meet one.
- To train them to listen to her.
- To teach them not to be easily offended.
- To live as single moms with amazing lives.
- To teach them a gracious and generous hospitality.
A couple more thoughts before I leave you. The list you just read is a list of CHAPTER TITLES, not rules to keep. This list is not exhaustive by any stretch of the imagination, nor have I just given you the be-all-end-all of motherhood. These things were written because of God’s grace to me and they are only intended as encouragement to you.
I am running alongside you, longing to love them well today.
PS – if you’d like to read the chapters that belong to the titles, you can order 52 Things here.